Are You a Professional?

How you look, talk, write, act and work determines whether you are a professional or an amateur. Society does not emphasize the importance of professionalism, so people tend to believe that amateur work is normal. Many businesses accept less-than-good results.

Schools graduate students who cannot read. You can miss 15% of the driving-test answers and still get a driver license. "Just getting by" is an attitude many people accept. But it is the attitude of amateurs.

"Don't ever do anything as though you were an amateur.

"Anything you do, do it as a Professional to Professional standards.

"If you have the idea about anything you do that you just dabble in it, you will wind up with a dabble life. There'll be no satisfaction in it because there will be no real production you can be proud of.

"Develop the frame of mind that whatever you do, you are doing it as a professional and move up to professional standards in it.

"Never let it be said of you that you lived an amateur life.

"Professionals see situations and they handle what they see. They are not amateur dabblers.

"So learn this as a first lesson about life. The only successful beings in any field, including living itself, are those who have a professional viewpoint and make themselves and ARE professionals" — L. Ron Hubbard

A professional learns every aspect of the job. An amateur skips the learning process whenever possible.

A professional carefully discovers what is needed and wanted. An amateur assumes what others need and want.

A professional looks, speaks and dresses like a professional. An amateur is sloppy in appearance and speech.

A professional keeps his or her work area clean and orderly. An amateur has a messy, confused or dirty work area.

A professional is focused and clear-headed. An amateur is confused and distracted.

A professional does not let mistakes slide by. An amateur ignores or hides mistakes.

A professional jumps into difficult assignments. An amateur tries to get out of difficult work.

A professional completes projects as soon as possible. An amateur is surrounded by unfinished work piled on top of unfinished work.

A professional remains level-headed and optimistic. An amateur gets upset and assumes the worst.

A professional handles money and accounts very carefully. An amateur is sloppy with money or accounts.

A professional faces up to other people’s upsets and problems. An amateur avoids others’ problems.

A professional persists until the objective is achieved. An amateur gives up at the first opportunity.

A professional produces more than expected. An amateur produces just enough to get by.

A professional produces a high-quality product or service. An amateur produces a medium-to-low quality product or service.

A professional earns high pay. An amateur earns low pay and feels it’s unfair.

A professional has a promising future. An amateur has an uncertain future.

Are you a professional?

Love vs Obsession

haha..some weird topic i have here..we profess that we love someone..but do we ever wonder is it really love that we feel or is it something else?some may say that love comes with obsession and it is quite the same thing..

But after all that I've had throughout my life..my opinion is that these two things are very different.

Obsession, is a state where we are being emotionally excessive and very selfish. We want to control the life of another, gaining happiness by doing all that we can so that the other person will do what we want exclusively for our own.

We 'romantically' chase, pursue - at times, even physically stalk - those we profess to "love." When we engage in relationships with new partners, we tend to be so possessive in our manner of "loving" that they inevitably run for the door to escape what they perceive to be an extremely oppressive and, essentially, unloving atmosphere.

If obsession=love, I rather not have it in my life at all. This is not loving. On the intuitive level, this is emotional obsession in its most dangerous and destructive form, so far removed from genuine love that we can't even categorize it as obsession due to the level of psychosis involved. Again, I highlight the word here..PSYCHOSIS.

Love, in my definition is when you want someone to be happy..with, or without you in the picture of their happiness. If we are genuinely in love with someone, we put their happiness before our own. We feel their pain, their sadness, their sorrow..We give the person all that we have just to make that person happy..even though we're not one of the active participants in their future lives.

We want these individuals to be genuinely happy as they live their lives - with or without us - because we are capable of truly loving them that much.

Loving, should be unselfish. Why? Well, if you really think that love is a sacred thing, then, it should be that way. How can we consider something selfish to be sacred? isn't that very much contradicting?

When we say, "I can't live without this person in my life," we aren't expressing love but instead, extreme dependency on another individual. We are obsessed and parasitic in the way we feel about that individual. We have focused the essence of our lives on the lives of our partners and are basically feeding off them as they pursue their own happiness in life.

We virtually have no identity for ourselves when we live this way. We are so focused on that partner and what he or she does in an attempt to be happy that we have no idea what it means to make ourselves happy. We are, plainly speaking, living our lives through the lives of others, which is a very unhealthy way to live.

Genuine love will never grow from such an unhealthy way of life, only greater dependency and deeper unhappiness is fostered in the end.

Love, is about sincerity. And sincerity means that we should expect nothing in return. Sounds foolish? but that, is what it truly means so to say. That, is what L.O.V.E means.

But then, people start asking, what about 'true love'? Well, that's easy. It's the love thing + commitment. Commitment means a pledge of trust. And this involves honor. when we pledge something, we put our honor into it. if we ever broke it, it means that we dishonor ourselves.

Love, is about being tolerant,sincerity,trust and respect..give and take..If you want true love..that's what you have to do..or else, you're not really loving someone..but in fact, you are treating them like some kind of thing which is the wrong meaning of love..at least in my opinion..haha..